Parts therapy is a game changer and it is very rare that I work with clients without incorporating this powerful process. We can dream of the life we want and think positive thoughts until we’re blue in the face, but unless we acknowledge and work with the core of the emotion, the pain or the trauma, that dream is going to remain a dream.
Often the thought of doing something is much more difficult than actually doing it. This concept is definitely true with parts therapy. People I work with have been pleasantly surprised at how simple the process can be and what a sense of relief it is to finally go to those ‘dark’ places. The most common fear is that a tsunami of trauma will flood out all at once; that it will be far too overwhelming and uncontrollable. As Isobel and many other clients have discovered, if approached sensibly, it’s a very gentle process.
Acknowledging what we are afraid of doesn’t make it any worse, it actually reduces its power. We cannot integrate our parts through denial or judgement. That is what makes the unwanted and uncomfortable feelings intensify. When we connect with our parts, they’re usally thrilled to be seen and acknowledged. They are so relieved to be unburdoned from their roles. As a result, our true selves emerge to steer our lives so that we can live from our authentic spirit rather than from fear and trauma.
So let’s not be fugitives from ourselves. Let’s “probe the fearful and wonderful world within”. It’s waiting to communicate with our true self.